Meet Rosie Luik! A fabulous mother of 4, a surrogate of 2, and a wife who has still built her platform that has taken off the grounds! If you put your mind to it, you can accomplish anything, right? Read below how Rosie still accomplish her career goals while also having a family!
Rosie, tell us more about yourself!
My name is Rosie, I am a 33 y/o mum of four; three girls and one boy all aged between 6 and 13 years. I’m married to my best friend who also happens to be a wonderful husband, who also happens to be a fireman and also happens to be pretty hot too; I may be biased though! I’m an author and have released four children books, the latest being a guide for tween girls on puberty. I’m also a blogger, model, speaker and I absolutely love the work I do immensely and the opportunities that it creates. My aim in life is to inspire and encourage people to be kind every day, turn their dreams into goals and chase them down... which usually means stepping out of your comfort zone!
What inspired you to begin your modelling journey?
Modelling was always something I was passionate about and never thought I would get the chance to do after having kids. I never had the confidence to pursue it full time, in school or before we started a family. I bundled that dream up and put it in the back of my mind. I was very happy as I’d always dreamed of being a mum too and was loving the new chapter in my life. In 2011, between our third and fourth child, I was a surrogate. After the birth of the twins, a severe infection was left misdiagnosed and I became extremely sick; the symptoms resurfaced after the birth of our fourth child and the infection escalated. I had numerous surgeries and extended stays in hospital, the longest being for a very tough three months, when our fourth child was only a few weeks old. It was a situation where my husband was told to consider the possibility that I may not make it home. When going through a life experience like that, you think of all the things you didn't get to do in life and one of those things for me was modelling. After a long recovery and when I was starting to feel a little more human, I made modelling a goal for me to achieve and I'm still working hard every day, setting new goals, trying to achieve as much as I can. Even though there a few more things to check off the list, I have to also remind myself how far I've come and not get hung up on the things that may or may not happen.
Oftentimes, we become stress or worried when we are in our 20s if we have not begun our career. Life happens! You became a mother and a wife at the age of 21, and you pushed modelling to the side to focus on your family. You started your career in your 30s. How did that make you feel? What motivated you to begin? What advice can you give to other women that it is never too late to start their career?
I knew the odds were stacked against me, but I also knew within myself that it was the right time for me. The best advice that I've taken away is that “you are where you need to be at the exact right time”. To me this quote is everything. Age is literally just a number. If you have a dream, write it down, create your goals, get a plan that is adaptable to overcome obstacles and then take small steps to achieve your vision. Don’t try to achieve your vision in a few big leaps, you will set yourself up to fail. Celebrate the small wins and keep moving forward.
You became the first legal surrogate of twins in Queensland. It is so powerful and inspiring that you became a surrogate for a friend of yours. What inspired you to do so?
It was really a matter of just wanting to help in any way I could. To me, that is what it means to be a friend, if you have the ability to help a friend achieve a goal, then you do what you can. I wanted my friend to be happy; to experience the joy and privilege of motherhood and achieve the goal of having a family of her own.
How were you able to overcome your obstacles and still be on the top of your game?
Staying positive and just believing something great is about to happen is what I focused on. I believe everything happens for a reason and sometimes it’s hard to understand why at the time but a positive look on life always helps. The last few years have been an absolute whirlwind of finding myself, juggling work and being a mum of four and trying to carve myself a career in what is traditionally a very competitive and superficial industry. There is a change happening though, with the likes of one of my inspirations, Heidi Klum, its ok for models to be a little older and for mums to still grace the catwalk of Victoria’s Secret. Last year was also the first year that all my kids were in school which meant I had a little more time to invest in pursuing my goals and looking after myself. If I’m not working, I’m at a Pilates, boxing or F45 class, which is how I love to spend my ‘me time’. If I am working I always try to fit in a class after or early before work. I’m constantly ‘on’ and to have an hour class where I can detach is amazing and I’m very grateful to be able to do that. I also love to put my playlist on and run 5km a day on the treadmill at home (it wouldn’t be possible if I had to leave the house!) Sometimes though I need to split the run and do half in the morning and half at night after the kids have gone to bed. These are the things I find enjoyable and that I do to relieve a little pressure and keep my mind clear. This creates a calmness and happiness that tends to flow through our home and helps me to be really present with the kids and perform my best when working.
Being married and being a mother of four can be considered as a fulltime job plus having a career. How are you able to manage modeling, public speaking, and being an author?
My husband and I work together as a team and just make it happen. I work with what I have, to get things done. I do miss out on some amazing events and opportunities occasionally and that’s a little frustrating. My husband is a fire fighter and has set holidays and a rotating roster which means we can plan around his roster and holidays when booking jobs and travelling. This allows for at least one of us to be at home with the kids.
You became a model for Britney Spears and so many other platforms. How does it make you feel becoming a successful model after waiting for so long?
When you set a goal and achieve it, no matter the goal there is always a level of pride, accomplishment and fulfillment that is attached. Success is all a matter of perspective, I purely set out to achieve my goals one of those happened to be a model. To what level I wasn’t sure. I remember my first goal being to end up in a catalogue.. then billboards which shows that you must also keep assessing and creating new goals when you tick one off
Tell us more about your books, “Help I’m a Tweenager: A Girl’s Guide to Puberty” and “21st Century Guide to the Birds and the Bees”?
After becoming a surrogate, it raised a lot of questions from the children of family and friends, and of course my own about the different ways in which babies can be made. The desire was to squash any taboo on any particular way of conception. A “21st Century Guide to the Birds & the Bees” is a book especially for children that explains ALL the ways that a baby can be made including IVF and surrogacy.
I was inspired to write “Help! I’m a Tweenager” as my oldest daughter was approaching puberty. I also had a lot of my younger followers on social media messaging me for advice on all sorts of topics. I wanted a safe place for their questions to be answered without delving into more in depth topics like sex and drugs. The book is written for tweenage girls on their body and puberty. I share advice based on my own personal experiences and that of other women who have come out the other side of that chapter in our lives.
What advice would you give to other women who are following in your footsteps?
This may sound like a bunch of motivational quotes but they are all the mantras that I have to remind myself. Never give up, small steps in the right direction are all it takes. If the plan isn’t working, change the plan and not the goal. Just put one foot in front of the other and you will get there. When you are faced with obstacles, get creative; look for ways under them, over them, around them or just plough through them with sheer determination. Surround yourself with supportive people who genuinely want to see you succeed anything less can be toxic and hold you down.
What are some future goals that you have for yourself and your career?
I have just started a new venture called “Move Your Mum” which is now my primary focus and passion. My goal is to share what I've learnt over the years, share the benefits that come with a large social media following and talk about my experiences as a full-time mum starting her career in her 30’s to help other mums to do the same. It’s never too late and I want to help them take those first few steps to achieving their goals and rediscovery their passions and identity after having children. I’m excited to be developing workshops and start hosting events on this topic and will work on releasing another book bringing it all together.
Where do you see yourself in the next 5-10 years?
Helping as many people as I can achieve their goals. That’s my goal. To achieve this goal, I have many steps to get through and hurdles to overcome. Some of the steps include building a supportive community, get my next book out and host events in as many places as possible; to inspire, motivate and support Mum’s to discover their identities again after having kids and set out to achieve their vision of happiness. All my children will either be in high school or would have left school, so I’m hoping the next 5 to 10 years don’t go by too quickly!
The purpose of the FabuLuxe platform is to help women feel fabulous and sophisticated. What advice or words of encouragement can you give to our readers about feeling fabulous as a woman?
My message is simple, be kind, be humble and be giving. No matter what life throws at you remember these three things and live by them and don’t forget to include yourself on the receiving end of your own kindness! As a woman I've been judged, ridiculed for my career choices, unsupported and pushed down, mostly from other women and Mum’s. Don’t let other people’s issues and desire for drama keep you down and destroy your self-perception and self-worth. Surround yourself with a community of women and mum’s who support and motivate, who stand at the top and help others get there too, rather than keeping it all for themselves. Treat people with kindness and bring each other up, we have so much power in numbers so let’s use it for good. I get excited about a community where someone has an idea, a passion, goal or venture that they want to get off the ground and they already have their own cheer squad ready to get behind them and lift them up.
Instagram @rosie_luik and @move_your_mum
Facebook: Move Your Mum
Website: www.rosieluik.com and www.moveyourmum.com.au