Meet MAIA! She has written a book based on love and piecing yourself back together after a heartbreak.
MAIA, tell us more about yourself!
Well, I'm 24. I love to travel, give back, write (of course), and be around friends and family. I always believe in trying something new. I believe in love, even though I haven't gotten the best of it, but I do believe in soulmates. And no amount of bad situations can make me deter from that. I am all about finding your passion in life and believing that you can truly do anything you dream of.
What inspired you to write The fall, The rise? What is the true meaning behind it?
Honestly, all of the things I have been through. The fall kind of signifies falling into someone completely and losing yourself to a point where you are just, broken. It is literally giving someone everything you have and they just say they want more. Or it isn't enough. The rise then signifies you rising up into yourself, out of the fire they left you in. It doesn't necessarily have to be relationship like my story, it can be something with friends, or just life in general. But for me, it was rising up to meet myself and loving myself the way that I needed to be. And then realizing that I had someone around that could possibly treat me the way I needed to be unlike the past. That's the real meaning of the book.
What does The fall, The rise means to you?
We fall, we rise. In life. Whether it be career, relationships, happiness, mental health, anything. But it is realizing that it is OKAY to fall sometimes and not beat yourself up about it. We all have days where we don't want to get out of bed. Days where we feel like we fell short. Days where we feel like we aren't good enough. Days where sometimes we feel like, what's the point? But the good thing is, once you have fallen, the only way to go is UP. So we must rise. It is in our nature. When we physically fall down, we dust ourselves off and stand back up, right? We have to do that emotionally. We have to show up for ourselves, even when and especially when, others don't show up for us. It's easier said than done, trust me I know. But is is important to me that this book shows that even under the weight of our worries, we can always rise. You don't have to stay broken.
Your book is based on “falling in love, losing yourself, breaking apart, and piecing yourself back together.” Were there any breakthroughs that you have experienced that other women can relate to? If so, what is one situation that you have experienced that has shifted your life. How did you overcome it? What advice would you give to other women who is experiencing a similar situation?
Oh definitely. Realizing that I am worthy of love. And that I am enough. At the time I started the book, I was going through a lot. A lot in my life. With my job, love interests, relationships, and struggling with overall happiness. I wrote because it healed me. It felt good to get everything out when nobody was around to listen to me talk. It has a lot to do with trying to love someone who really just can't love you back. During this point, I was going through a lot emotionally with an ex of mine. I felt unnoticed, unappreciated, and taken for granted. Really, I never felt good enough for my ex. It was always something going on and deep down, I knew he didn't treat me the way I needed to be treated, but I "loved" him, right? I think everything shifted when he did something to me, that I just couldn't look over. That was the breakthrough for me. I had finally had enough. I realized that I was worth it. That I wasn't who he tried to treat me as. That I am a genuine person and I deserve the love that I had given for so many years. I overcame it through writing. I encourage anyone who is going through something to find something they are obsessed with, and then do it. Something that sets their soul on fire. My advice to anyone who does not feel like they are enough for someone, or worth it, or mistreated: Stop. Stop letting them take you for granted, and stop allowing it. Stop beating yourself up. Stop telling yourself you aren't beautiful enough, skinny enough, smart enough, fun enough, whatever it may be. Just stop. You are a wonder in this world and you are the only you in this world. You are special because God designed you himself. Stop insulting his design. I promise you, you will always be enough for the right person. You are already enough. It just takes someone special to see it. And love yourself, even when it's hard, love yourself anyway.
How will this book impact women around the world?
My hope is that women will see that no matter how far you have fallen, you can always get up. There is hope on the other side of the fall.
Why is it important to love yourself for who you are?
Because you should love yourself for who you are so someone else can get the chance to love YOU too. It is amazing when someone SEES you, you know? Like really sees who you are, flaws and all, and still loves you anyway for it. You have to be true to yourself. Don't compare yourself to everyone else and don't try to be like someone else you see that you think may have it all. Just love yourself. Once again, sometimes easier said than done. But take the time to speak kindness and love into your own heart, and your soul with thank you for it.
When a woman is breaking down, what is an idea for her to use to be able to pick herself back up?
Self-care days are amazing. It is OKAY to just take a break from everything. To turn your phone on do not disturb and do something that genuinely makes you happy. Whether it is going to the book store and finding a new read. Working out, painting, or even having a little spa day to yourself. That is what I do. When I wake up some mornings, and i just can't deal, i do something that I know will make me happy. Mostly, it's turning on some old school music and lighting candles. That's love right there.
What motivates you to keep going even when you feel like giving up?
Looking up. Whether it be at a sunset, clouds, or the moon. Realizing that the world is so much bigger than my own silly problems. (sometimes they are not silly). But just looking for a moment. Pausing out of my day to notice the little things around me and how they all make life so beautiful. Looking at a sunset and realize that even the sun falls but comes back too. It shows me that there's a purpose in everything. I just have to keep going to see it.
What are some future goals that you have for yourself and for your book?
Writing more books! I also want to do spoken word, but I have terrible stage fright. I'll get over it one day.
Where do you see yourself and your book in the next 5-10 years?
I hope in the next 5-10 years, I will have written a couple more books. I also have been playing with the idea of doing motivational speaking, but we will see. It's really about growing a community to me. I just want to make people feel good. I want them to put themselves back together. I want people to love themselves.
The purpose of the FabuLuxe platform is to help women feel fabulous and sophisticated. What advice or words of encouragement that you can give to our readers about feeling fabulous as a woman?
Don't let anyone steal your joy. Love yourself. Remember that you are beautiful. Remember that you are worthy. Show up for yourself, even when you feel like you can't. When it's hard, it's okay to cry, but get up. Get up. Get up. Get up. Rise.